by Jill Kemerer
Have you ever had a time in life where you really didn’t have any friends outside of your marriage or immediate family?
I have on more than one occasion. We’ve moved many times, and one move in particular created a friendship dry spell for me. It’s strange to not have someone to call up and meet for coffee. It’s difficult to fill out school forms and literally have no name to put down for emergency contacts. More than anything, it’s lonely.
What do we do without good friends?
When my heart curls up in a lonely ball inside my chest, I turn to the Lord. We always have a friend in Jesus. He cares for us. 1 Peter 5:7 (NIV) says, “Cast all your anxieties on him because he cares for you.” Even when our longing for a friend lingers and isn’t fulfilled, we can give that to the Lord and know He cares.
Sometimes we lose friendships that were dear to us. Any number of things can end a friendship–different phases of life, divorce, long-distance moves, misunderstandings, death, or a change of heart. We don’t always know why we lose a friend. Again, we can turn to the Lord for comfort. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 (NIV) “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.”
Hopefully, the dry periods with friendships are short! Tending to friendships is vital. If you’re blessed to have local friends, make an effort to stay in contact with them. Text them, call them, invite them for coffee or a lunch date. If you have friends who don’t live nearby, text them, call them, email them, send them a card–whatever! Keep the communication flowing. We are so blessed to live in an age where we can keep in touch with just about anyone, anywhere in the world.
I also pray for my friends. Prayer is one of the best gifts we can give, and it’s free. What’s not to love about that?
I pray you’re blessed with many friends! And if you’re in a dry spell, my heart goes out to you. It’s hard not having anyone to rely on and share our joys with.
How do you nurture your friendships? Have you ever been in a dry spell? What did you do?
Have a terrific day!