If you’re single, or if you have a single friend, you’ve probably heard the timeless debate. How long should a guy wait before calling a girl for a date? How long should a girl wait before giving up hope that she’ll hear from him? The generally accepted rule seems to be three days.
Have you heard the one about the guy who waited 62 years?
Yep. He waited more than six decades before asking out his crush. So what did she say?
Well, first, let me tell you a little about their story, which I first read about in the Boston Globe.
Eighteen-year-old Cynthia spent a summer in California working at a marine geology lab where she befriended one of her coworkers. Howard, then 28, was kind to the young intern, and they carried on a conversation via coded messages on paper towels all through the summer. But all the while, Howard knew that he was falling for his young friend, but she would leave to return to school in the fall. So he never said anything to her except good bye.
They each went their own ways, finding love, getting married, and raising families, Cynthia on the east coast and Howard on the west.
And then, when she was 80, Cynthia received a box filled with old paper towels–the same towels she’d written to Howard on. He’d saved them for 62 years, along with a fond affection for the memories of his young friend. Their letters turned to emails and then to calls and finally a visit. But Cynthia wasn’t as young as she had been, and she worried that Howard would be disappointed that she was no longer a young woman.
“Of course I remember the THEN Cynthia, but is it the NOW Cynner that is with me. You are the one,” Howie reassured her. “NOW is the person I love and not the shadow of the past . . . but she sure set the stage and what a beautiful introduction.”
Sixty-two years after they said their first good byes, he finally asked her out–for the rest of their lives.
And she said yes!
You can read more about Cynthia and Howard’s story here. I love this tale of a long-time love that was never forgotten. It speaks to human insecurities and the joy that can be found when we face those fears head on. It’s a lovely reminder too that you’re never to old to fall in love. The romantic in me just swoons at the very idea.
What do you think of this story? Would you want to hear from someone after 62 years?