This Fan Friday I’m delighted to have friend and author Julie Saffrin as my guest. I have enjoyed getting to know her through MN N.I.C.E. and the Great Lakes Get Away. I know you’ll love her, too. At the end leave a thank you to someone who has shaped your life to be entered in a drawing for a free copy of Julie’s book.
JULIE SAFFRIN is the author of numerous articles and essays. She received her bachelor’s degree in print journalism and English from the University of St. Thomas. She divides her time between her home in Minneapolis and her Adirondack chair at her cabin on a lake in Ottertail County with her husband Rick, sons Sam, Joe and Jake, and a golden retriever named Mick. She can be reached at www.JulieSaffrin.com
The Great BlessBack Give-Get
A BlessBack is an expression of gratitude given to a positive person in our past who made an impact on us. A BlessBack gives thanks in a pay-it-backward way.
These positive people are our illuminators, because they played an important role in our becoming who we are today. Our illuminators may have shown us some potential in ourselves that we could not see. Perhaps they reached out to us at a vulnerable time. Maybe they provided us counsel on a big decision we needed to make.
Some time ago, I looked back over my life and thought about the people who made a positive comment about my writing abilities. I did this at a time when I was struggling through obtaining my bachelor’s degree while in my forties. During a semester of challenging classes, I remembered my illuminators’ words, “Never give up,” and “You’re getting the only “A” I’ve ever given in this writing class” and waved them like pom-poms in my mind to cheer me on as I chased after my dreams.
I obtained my degree in 2008 and in February 2012, my first book, BlessBack: Thank Those Who Shaped Your Life was published. In July 2012, the Kindle e-book version released. I credit my illuminators for helping me achieve my dreams. You can read the stories of my thanking these people in the book as well as others’ stories and their giving and receiving BlessBacks. Let the stories inspire you to not only remember the people who left an indelible impression on you, but to also give you the courage to thank your life influencers too.
The powerful words of those who champion us on deserve our thanks. And when you do express your thanks? You will be amazed at the great give-get dynamic at play. For when you give a BlessBack, you will experience an altruistic afterglow that comes when a sincere heart genuinely expresses thanks. At the same time, the person receiving your BlessBack will experience the effects of being honored. That honoring will linger in that person’s heart long after the BlessBack has been given. That person will know that he or she matters.
The result of your giving gratitude to those special people in your life is what I call the Great Give-Get. Both parties will experience the reciprocal nature of altruism in the giving and receiving of BlessBacks. You’ll be amazed at how great you feel and how life-changing and powerful a BlessBack exchange is as you implement it in your life. All you need to do is to begin to change your life is start with, “Thank you for . . .”
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Who would you like to thank for impacting your life?