Struggling through Rejection
No is a hard word to hear, especially when it’s something we really want now.
But hindsight is a beautiful thing. It gives us the ability to see God in the no’s.
It gives us the ability to see those no’s for what they are.
Just not right now.
I entered the manuscript in multiple contests. It didn’t final in a single one. One judge even told me the story would never be published in the CBA.
I queried multiple agents. Then went on to receive many no thank you’s. One was particularly crushing. I had a very unexpected encounter with an agent at a writing conference (no, I didn’t follow her into the bathroom).
Let’s just say it felt like a divine appointment. She expressed a lot of interest. I was super excited. But she ended up passing. Although she liked my writing, she didn’t think Wildflowers was the book that would get me in the door.
When I did get an agent, we submitted this story to multiple publishing houses. What did we get back? A couple rejections and a whole lot of silence.
I remember feeling deflated. I remember feeling like it would never happen. I mean, if these agents said no, why would anyone else say yes? And if these publishing houses didn’t want the manuscript, why would any other publishing house want the manuscript?
Looking back now, I can see God’s hand all over it.
His timing truly was perfect.
Because I wouldn’t want any other agent than the one I have now. I wouldn’t want any other publisher than the one I have now. And I wouldn’t want any of my other novels to be my debut, despite really really REALLY hoping that my first two would get me a book deal.
I know it’s easy to get discouraged in the midst of the waiting. I know it’s easy to lose heart in the midst of the no’s. But take heart. Instead of seeing those no’s as dead ends, see them as detours. Instead of seeing them as closed doors, see them as one step closer to the right door.
Quite often, those no’s are just preludes to the perfect yes.
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