First, there is the whole extended family dinner clean-up, then the fact that by nine o’clock you have sworn off of Easter Baskets for the next century, oh and don’t forgot the pile of laundry you shoved in your closet till the guests were gone.
By the time your kids have attempted the blanket sling shot method to get you out of bed on Monday morning to reenact the day before’s egg hunt, you are sure that not even medication will keep you upright.
To reinforce that conclusion, you discover at about nine a.m. you wore your clothes inside out and you fed the dog breakfast cereal.
You sit down in front of your computer because you have set a goal to write five days a week, only to discover the Easter Bunny stole your talent. Yes, there must be some reason that you are staring at the screen with one word to show for the past half an hour.
Every part of you is screaming CHOCOLATE!!! CAFFEINE!!! PILLOW!!!! Except that cursor on your computer screen keeps taunting you.
“You can’t do this!” It blinks black slashes in rhythm.
Truth is, every writer hits self-doubt sometimes. Sometimes, like the instance above, you might need to take a day off and find that quiet refreshing solace of a locked bathroom door and a bubble bath. (If you are a mom, you know why I say locked…you may just want to put a towel across the bottom of the door to avoid the little fingers that call to you from underneath.)
What about the times when you feel like a failure?
*Identify The Problem: Sit down and ask yourself why? Sometimes it is as simple as the need for more sleep, other times you are struggling with a certain part of your writing that you don’t know how to overcome the obstacles. Identify the cause of your feelings.
*Write that Problem on a piece of paper. It is so much easier to face a problem that is in a concrete form.
*Write down three ways to deal with the problem. For example, you are struggling with a certain part of your writing skill, find the name of a craft book on amazon and write it down. One solution would be to read up, another to ask a writing mentor, or go to a workshop.
*Pray about the Problem on the paper every day for a week. Ask God to help with the challenge you are facing.
*Determine not to bury your talents for fear of failure like the servant in the Bible. If you bury them under a rubble pile of self-deprecation, God won’t multiply them. When you use your talents as He intends, you will watch them grow under His nurturing care.
*Don’t let the fact that you struggle with something play a role in your whole identity. Not all writers are strong in all areas, don’t expect yourself to be perfect. Accept the part of the journey you are on.
*Don’t make sweeping generalities about your talent. An Olympian still has some weaknesses, so will you. It doesn’t mean you are not talented.
*Select a solution from your brainstormed list and address the problem. Write down your game plan to turn this weakness into strength.
What are your favorite quotes, scripture, or words of wisdom that encourage you when you are feeling like a failure?