The grass is always greener on the published side. That’s what us unpublished writers sometimes think. We stand at the fence line pining over the contract on the other side, feeling as if where we are isn’t sufficient.
We tell ourselves that God gave me this dream to be a writer, so I should get a contract soon. We focus on the end game, wanting that all illusive piece of paper that gives us legitimacy. As if the day we get our first contract we have arrived.
I have celebrated with a few of my friends who are recently published. They are excited and living in a dream world, until there is that moment when things start to get so busy it is hard to catch up.
My published friends have often said, “Enjoy it while you don’t have any deadlines.” They are enjoying being published, but it comes with lots of deadlines and responsibilities that unpublished writers don’t have to worry about.
Published writers also see that the grass is greener on the best-seller list. I think it is a disease that eats away at our happiness. This whole need to get the next best thing often keeps us from enjoying the place we are in and the fun that we can have right now.
If we let ourselves start down the grass is greener road, we will always be looking for the next best thing, never satisfied with where we are in our writing journey.
The Apostle Paul said, “I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.” Philippians 4:11(NIV). Paul said this from a spot of persecution. He had at the time already faced ship wreck, hunger, prison, being stoned and beaten. Yet, in all of this Paul said he could be content no matter what the circumstances.
I don’t know about you, but that makes me want to sit down and get a grip on my griping. I am not dealing with anywhere near the hardship Paul faced on his journey. Maybe I should just be happy I’m a writer and not an apostle during the time of Paul.
Have you ever struggled with the grass is always greener? What did you do to refocused your life?