How many of you have watched American Idol and seen the crazy auditions? You know, the ones where they believe they will be the next superstar. Their friends even told them they are amazing. Still the audience is searching for their earplugs.
Every time I see them crash and burn, I think to myself, ‘they need to get better friends.’ Who would let a friend embarrass themselves on national television, without giving them a moment of truth?
The world is full of these kinds of friends. They tell you what you want to hear because it is the easier path. They don’t want to offend or hurt you. What hurts more, being the butt of every American household joke for a year, or hearing your friend say, this might not be your thing?
I’ve been there. Had that moment where a friend asked me my opinion and sometimes I told them what they wanted to hear, thinking it would encourage them. After watching American Idol, I have determined to be more genuine in my friendships. The friends I seek and the friend I have become. It all goes back to the book that gives us the greatest wisdom.
What does the Bible say about friendship?
*Friends tell the truth in love. They are honest with each other because it helps them focus on the things that are important.
“Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.”
Proverbs 27:6 (NIV)
*Friends Make Each Other Stronger. They advise, lead by example and rub off the rough edges of our character.
“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another”
*Friends Love Unconditionally. They stay by our side, no matter what comes. Job’s friends sat with him in sack cloth and commiserated with him. Maybe their advice could have been stronger, but they never left him.
“A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born of adversity.”
*A Person is known by the company they keep. Surround yourself with wise friends and you will make better choices in life. Surround yourself with ‘yes’ friends and you will find yourself standing in the front of the microphone with no talent at all.
“Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise,
but the companion of fools will suffer harm.
Proverbs 13:12 (NIV)
Friends are a huge part of our lives. They bring encouragement, laughter and truth. Our friends say a lot about us. As a writer, my critique buddies need to be these kinds of friends as well. I am blessed with three amazing critique buddies who cheer me on, set me straight and show they care every day.
What do you look for in a friend?